The work day is done. As you pull up in your driveway, you sigh at the thought of getting out of your vehicle and walking in the door. It’s not because of the people on the other side of that door either. Your love them. Your wife and kids are why you work as hard as you do. No. You are exhausted because you know they expect you to show up for them. They depend on you. They depend on you for hugs, kisses, airplane rides, fart jokes, and support. The problem is that you are so exhausted, that you have no idea where you are going to find the energy to be the man they need you to be.
So…you dig deep and make it work. Maybe you have been doing this for a while, and maybe you haven’t. It seems like a good plan so far, so why not just keep doing the same thing? The answer is one we both already know. You aren’t going to be able to keep this up forever.
Testosterone May Not Be The Issue
Do you feel tired a lot? Do you feel at times during the day that you could just pass out and sleep for days? If so, you’re not alone. A lot of guys are experiencing the same thing you are. The knee-jerk reaction is to blame it on getting older and assuming that your testosterone is low. You think you’ll go to the doctor and have this confirmed and start on a T supplement and everything will be fine. While this may be true, and you should absolutely consult with your doctor before taking any supplements, a lot of my clients are finding that their T levels are normal while their energy levels are bottoming out.
Depression May Not Be The Problem Either
It's no big secret that low energy is associated with depression in men. However, it does not have to be this deep. So many men carry the weight of the world on their shoulders unnecessarily. We feel the pressure of being a provider, protector, playmate, and partner. The problem is that there never seem to be enough hours in the day. So, we give all we’ve got and still feel like we're coming up short.
Dude, You Just Need to Recharge!
The issue, from my experience, is a physics lesson more than anything. We expect the car to continue traveling uphill, but we never stop to put gas in the tank. We expect ourselves to continue being all things to all people but never bother to do anything to help ourselves recharge. The simple fix to your perpetual exhaustion might be as simple as one hour every week. That’s right. One hour per week spent doing something that makes you feel energized. It could be working out, engaging in a hobby, watching tv, playing video games, cooking, yard work, or anything you enjoy that fills your tank. By doing this, you may be able to bypass the feeling of exhaustion which leads you to inaccurately feel like a failure as well.
At Mind Works Counseling Services in Lubbock, TX, we understand that this can feel daunting. You don’t have to be suffering from anxiety, depression, or another illness to benefit from working with a counselor. Therapy can be about talking through strategies to help you improve and become the man you want to be, either for your family or just for yourself. Here, we understand men and how their brains work. We have the experience and knowledge to help you reach whatever goals you may have.
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