"Can we talk?"
Sometimes this is the most dreaded question we hear, especially from our partner. What is so daunting about talking? Why is it difficult to put your thoughts, emotions, and feelings into words?
Communication or talking is important in any relationship. Think about it, if you never talked to the people you worked with, you could miss vital information about the company, policy, or any number of things. The same is true in relationships. If you go days, weeks, and months without talking, you miss vital information.
Why Communication is So Important
Sometimes we take our partner for granted. We simply expect them to know what we feel, and when they fail to acknowledge our feelings, we lash out, or push away. Understand your partner is not a mind reader. Though they may love you with all they have, they cannot read your mind. They may be able to feel something is off, but if you don’t communicate with them, they could be way off the mark.
So, take the time to share with your partner things that matter to you. If you don’t like it when she yells, let her know. Not by yelling, “stop yelling at me” but by communicating how her yelling at you makes you feel.
Practice Low-Pressure Communication
Not every conversation has to be deep and/or difficult. Have fun with your conversations. Talk about things you enjoy, things you want to do, goals, and of course, things that need to be worked on and things you want to change. Talk. The goal is to keep both partners intimately involved in the different aspects of your individual lives. You might be amazed at what you learn when you talk.
Don't Let Communication Die
Many relationships fail because of lack of communication. In the beginning we are sharing EVERYTHING because we just want to talk, text, or just spend time with one another. As time goes on, we get busy, the love of our life is no longer the top(est) priority, and so many things get in the way of communication. We start getting comfortable and we fail to communicate like we did when the relationship started. These are landmines that must be avoided in order to keep your relationship fresh and flowing. Fresh, because no one wants a musty relationship (phew). Flowing because if things are moving, they are more balanced, and who doesn’t need balance?
Can we talk? We sure can, because talking is
- vital for the success of any relationship
- how we communicate our feelings, thoughts, and emotions
- is both fun and informative
- how we keep relationships fresh and flowing
At Mind Works Counseling services in Lubbock, TX, we specialize in Relationship Therapy and have helped many MANY couples rekindle and improve their communication skills.
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